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bvd9701's avatar

A grave stone is one respectful way to memorialize a man’s life.

But a heartfelt account from someone who bore witness to the life that he lived - with both the highs and the lows - is an EVEN BETTER way to remember your father and to celebrate his brief time on Earth.

God bless you for sharing your father’s story with families across the globe. He would be proud of you.

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Liv Imanuelsen's avatar

Thanks, I wrote it from my heart.

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RL's avatar

What a beautiful story. Thank you for sharing. 🥰

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Liv Imanuelsen's avatar

Thanks, he deserve to be remembered.

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Robert Garron's avatar

Im very sorry about this violation. My prayers are with you!

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Liv Imanuelsen's avatar

Thanks for caring.

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Ki M's avatar

Yes!! I didn’t realize that could happen. I am happy you feel comfort that he is in heaven and the grave was just his body left behind. But I also recognize the sacredness of being able to visit that place in prayer, memories and thought and how this was a violation, not considering your wishes for your own father’s grave. That is a double violation (by the cemetery and the other family members).

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Robert Garron's avatar

It's frightening, but we rejoice he didnt have to witness what we've been flooded with!

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Andrea Plamondon's avatar

Thank you for sharing such a heartfelt and personal story about your father. How awful it must have been to find his grave erased. I wish you all peace, courage and strength...

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Liv Imanuelsen's avatar

Thanks for your nice words, I wanted to share his story. It was painful to see the disrespect and I never thought it would ever happen.

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Andrea Plamondon's avatar

The trials on this earth can sometimes be almost too much to bear... but it is a blessing that your fathers' grandson (your son) has been able to share his light with the world. I do believe I see a resemblance.

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Angels Watching Over Me's avatar

What a loving tribute to your dad! You just made him real to those who never knew him. Your dad must have been a special man for he shines through you.

Blessings.

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Liv Imanuelsen's avatar

Thanks, that was very nice said. He was very kind and I don’t know if I would have found Jesus if it wasn’t for him.

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Anonymous's avatar

I've never heard of erasing a grave... What do they do with the person's remains when this happens? I'm so sorry to hear this, but your mother is right - your grandfather is in his perfect, heavenly body with Christ. Evil is so pervasive - there seems to be no place left untouched by it. Stay strong in your faith, do not worry about the cares of the world - focus on following Jesus.

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Liv Imanuelsen's avatar

They have buried a new person on top of him. I had never heard about it before. He did not deserve this. Thanks, I will follow Jesus always.

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Mims's avatar

They do that in the USA but they don’t remove the markers since the person is still buried there. We have a family plot with two more opening. Cremated remains can be placed on top. For instance my father was buried in a coffin and my mother cremated. I wanted her remains to be placed upon his. Sadly there was dissension I. The family on this so it did t happen.

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Lenny Graceffo's avatar

They’ve done this in Canada for decades. Common practice apparently.

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Ojy Freiegeescht's avatar

This is common practice everywhere in Europe. Otherwise, how would you explain that our ancestors from the XVIII. century and before most of the time don't have any grave of their own any more? In many countries, you get a grave for a deceased relative for 15 years, sometimes 30 years and the family has to pay a fee to renew. Otherwise, the grave is attributed to somebody else after the remnants have been cast into the pauper's grave and spread with quicklime

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Shari McGriff's avatar

What a beautiful tribute to your father. I am very sorry to hear that they moved him and took him off the registry that was incredibly wrong, but I am happy to hear that he knew Jesus and you will see him again.

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Liv Imanuelsen's avatar

It was very wrong. His grave is the only one in the whole family that has been erased.

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Laura's avatar

Thank you for this deep and meaningful story. It will bring others closer to God.

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Liv Imanuelsen's avatar

God is so good, I hope someone can see God’s love in this story.

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Lulane Chasteen's avatar

What a wonderful testimony I don’t understand how the church could use his grave for someone else. I’ve never heard of that. The most important thing is that he could NEVER be erased from God’s memory or His hand. I look forward to meeting him in heaven some day. God bless your family. 💕

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Liv Imanuelsen's avatar

I have never heard about it either. I thought it would be there always. I look forward to meet him again too, he was a good man. Thanks for your nice words.

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Frances Trewin's avatar

A lovely encouraging story. Perhaps you could put a memorial plaque somewhere for him? Funerals and graves are not for those who have passed, but for those left behind to celebrate someone’s life and remember them. 💗💗

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Liv Imanuelsen's avatar

Thanks, I have made this online memorial website so that he will never be forgotten. https://torleiviversen.wordpress.com/

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Karen Vanic's avatar

I am sorry for this horrible loss for the memory of your father. I rejoice that you and your family know the Lord and are able to look forward to reuniting with him in heaven. 🙏

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Liv Imanuelsen's avatar

I am so glad he is with Jesus. I look forward to meet him again.

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Wendy Porter's avatar

A lovely read….but a bit heartbreaking too. Where are Torliev’s remains? This disrespect to the dead is ghastly. It appears in our world that the innocents are always victimized, even the dead.

The only consolation is that we live in hope that Torliev is with God, and he can forgive such disrespectful family members.

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Liv Imanuelsen's avatar

His remains are underneath the new person buried on top of him. It feels in one way very unfair that he as the victim of a abuse died. But I know that he won the important thing. Eternal life. Most of his family are not on their way to heaven unfortunately.

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Wendy Porter's avatar

Like many in our families. Our families are dependent upon our prayers and fasting for them.

God bless you and keep you and thank you for this heartfelt story of love for your father .

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sherrel carvalho's avatar

He had his hardships and sorrows bur God never abandoned him. Thank you

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Liv Imanuelsen's avatar

Thanks for those words. God never abandoned him. It is so true.

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Janlyn Gosse's avatar

What a beautiful and important testimony. Thank you for posting it!

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RV's avatar

Liv, I can not begin to express my shock and sympathy. May the Lord bless you and keep you and make His face shine upon you.

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Nicky B's avatar

Thank you so much for sharing such a beautiful story. So many of us suffer in this world, but still have love for God and some of us get lost for a while.. I'm sure your father would want his story to encourage others that had real dark challenges in their life and had to put up with abuse that was not deserved. Also by leading people back to God and helping them God better the life of your father.

I am Swedish so your story has an even deeper impact on me due to your father's disposition that seems very Scandinavian.

God bless you, your family!!

Nicky

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Liv Imanuelsen's avatar

Ja, jeg tro han ville likt at jeg delte hans historie. Jeg har også skrevet en minneside om han på norsk. https://torleiviversen.wordpress.com/norsk/

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